There are some who argue that Valentines Day is an entirely invented occasion- dreamed up by greeting card companies in order to take even more money from us. There might be some truth to this, but anyone who uses it as an excuse to ignore (or more likely, to forget) Valentines Day is probably someone you shouldn’t date.
The joy of Valentines Day is infectious, and in the weeks leading up to that special day in February, you can barely walk down the street without being confronted with red love hearts and reminders to buy your special someone something special. Unsurprisingly, Hollywood has gotten in on the act, using the occasion for many Valentines Day themed TV shows, and even a whole movie about the day– even if it’s considered to be one of the worst movies ever made (although it inspired a very amusing parody).
Valentines Day can be a little difficult for those who are single, but it’s a different kind of difficult for those in a relationship. What should you buy? How much is too much? It’s a thin line to walk- you don’t want to be seen as a cliché with a heart shaped box of chocolates, but you also don’t want to go too much over the top…
Something for Both of You?
It can seem a bit much to surprise your beloved with some huge expensive gift if you’ve only been dating for a short period of time. This doesn’t mean that you can’t give something thoughtful and original, and you’re better off getting something that the two of you can share.
Consider something like parachute diving, a horse riding trek or even joint cooking classes or musical instrument lessons. It’s something a little different, and also shows how much you want to spend time with your partner.
Going on a trip with someone is often a big test for relationships. Sure, everything is fine now, but when you’re in a foreign country at 2am, arguing about whether a sign means “Beware of Robbers” or “Welcome to Our Town,” you might not be so much in love.
Having said that, the shared adventure of a short vacation is a perfect gift, but it requires a lot of planning so you don’t break the bank. Keep an eye on discount airfares and accommodation rentals, and it’s OK to choose a destination based on price, since it’s really about the adventure you’ll experience, rather than the place itself.
Those Old Favorites
Unless you’ve been with your partner for a long time and are familiar with their sense of style, it’s probably not a good idea to buy them clothing. It’s a nice idea, but if they don’t love it, they’re unlikely to wear it. Accessories are a safer bet, although still very thoughtful. Instead of relying on the old clichés of gold and silver jewelry, think of something a little different, like a greenstone or even jewelry made from amber stones. It’s still jewelry, and it still says I love you, but it doesn’t make the same kind of statement as buying a diamond ring and presenting it on one knee.
If worst comes to worst, and you’re a guy who was unlucky enough to forget Valentines Day, you could always use the excuse that you’re a feminist, you don’t believe in gender stereotypes, and that you were waiting for her to surprise you with a romantic dinner and gifts. It might not work, but it’s a better excuse than saying that you simply forgot!